The art of picking up women can be picked up by any type of guy, whether you’re a jock, a model, a gamer, or even just a guy who loves to read books at the library.
If you’re someone who likes to go to the library or just someone who’s looking for a challenge, picking up girls at the library is easier than you think.
What might you normally do when you see an attractive girl at the library?
Do you and your friends sit at a table and look at the hot girls passing by?
Do you try to stand up and imitate everything the girl does?
Do you follow them and try to sit at the same table?
Do you go up to her and try to act unsuspicious?
As David Deangelo has said,
“Women KNOW what you’re doing when you approach them. Heck, even if you’re just being nice and friendly they’ll SUSPECT that you’re picking up on them.”
Time to drop all the Bull****.
Let me introduce to you the idea of being upfront and genuine.
Stop Performing and Be Yourself
Being yourself means being upfront with whomever you want to approach. Keep in mind I’m not saying that you should straight out say, “hey I think you’re very attractive… blah blah blah.”
Although, that actually does work in other types of environments, women aren’t exactly going to the library to get hit on by guys.
Your approach has to be much more toned down, but at the same time without trying to hide that you’re interested. The reality is that you and the girl both know what you’re doing. So there’s no point in trying to conceal it. If she decides to go along with it, great.
At the end of the day, you’re letting her know that it’s her choice, and you’re not being suspicious in any way.
Picking Up Girls At The Library Situations
She’s sitting at the table by herself:
In this situation try sitting anywhere close to her. If it’s a private table, try to sit at a table near her.
Because you mostly have to be quiet, try writing up a note and leaving it on her table to get a conversation started. (kinda old school but trust me, it works)
She’s at the shelves looking for a book:
Ask her what book she’s looking for. (if you’re good at finding books, find it for her). Then walk away and wait until the next opportunity to talk to her.
She’s leaving the library:
Introduce yourself to her and let her know that you found her attractive. It’s the last resort, therefore you have to make an impression right then and there.
Don’t be creepy. Meaning, don’t ask if she comes here often or if you can walk her to her car.
She’s walking around the library:
Ask for help in finding your book. Have a list of books your looking for as well.
After she helps you, be really appreciative of her help and she’ll feel really good about herself.
Now, ask her what she was doing before she helped you out. GREAT WAY TO GET RAPPORT.
Having A Conversation
Ask questions about what she’s reading. Based on what she’s reading, if you know a bit about the subject or subject similar it can be a great conversation starter. Remember, she cares more about what she’s reading than anything else at the library. If you can show interest in what she cares about, it’ll easily attract her. REMEMBER TO BE GENUINE.
Talk and leave. Even if you’re having a great conversation, you can’t give her the impression that she’s in control. Remember you’re the one hitting on her and she knows this. Have a quick conversation and then say, “maybe I’ll see you around?” DON’T LEAVE UNTIL SHE GIVES YOU AN ANSWER.
Ask to have coffee. After you’ve had a quick conversation, it’s a great opportunity to continue talking by going to a coffee shop.
A lot of these tips work wonders if you just act genuine without performing. If you’re going to try and pick up girls at the library, don’t try to show up at the same one everyday. Mix it up, so that you’re not ‘that guy’ who’s trying to hit on everyone.
With a little practice mastering the pickup game at the library will become simple.